SARAH'S WORK
Poetry, articles, columns, opinion pieces, etc.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
* My Near, Far and in Between, I can Dream and Do List! *
Mom and I's cruise that Trevor got us for Christmas, hopefully it'll work with timing to do the relocation cruise back from Europe next year! North East Coast(Boston, NY, Rhode Island, Maine, Connecticut, Virginia). Grand Canyon(want to give it a try again on a clear day). Indonesia(Bali) and Malaysia. Would obviously love to go back to Sweden and enjoy all my favorite things! And if ever back in Europe I would like to visit Holland, Spain and France this time around and parts of southern/coast of Italy we did not have time to see... Colorado(hiking and water rafting). Niagra Falls. Yosemite, hike Half Dome(yes, can't believe growing up in CA and never been). Alaska again and northern lights...Alaska Cruise. Chicago. Kansas City(hopefully we'll be there for memorial day weekend).
Simpler Things:
Marry Shaun(no rush though, we aren't going anywhere anytime soon). Simple, very simple fun and lots of dancing, laidback wedding on the coast. Comfortable, inviting home. Backyard with wrap around patio with a hammock and fire pit(for many ahhh bbqs! nice nights and relaxing). Fruit trees. Start up crafts again, get into fun projects I've always wanted to try but never had the time to dedicate. Once we have the space, would like to get more quality/larger home brew tools to try more variations. Still have a desire for a fun little moped or scooter to go tooting around in, dependent on where we live. Off road vehicle if we have property. kayak if near a river, beach or lake. More wine tasting escapades! Go to an outdoor, camp over music fest(preferably country!). Road bike trip with a group overnight camping. Would like to run a half marathon, but just don't feel the love of running I use too ) : Eventually, career wise, would like to get with a company or cause I have a passion for, specifically a Community Relations/PR position with them or get into writing again for reviews, etc(unfortunately it's an under paid field with hard dealines, not family suitable). Have kids, another cat or so and 2 dogs ( : Attend more professional sports games. Like to try some water sports again: wake board, water ski. Ziplining again! but more in the woods, over a river? Enjoy family and friends more!(wish we weren't so spread apart! doesn't make it easy). Take time to do something fun or relaxing everyday!(and no not sit in front of the tv) Go out, fresh air, exercise more so. Take some adult ed courses to learn a new skill: Take up photography Try blowing glass. Paraglide or hanglide. Learn a hip hop dance and perform. Learn another style of dance, maybe some salsa or rhumba, cha cha. Choreograph a zumba dance. Coach sports again. Blog again. Lake time! Have a decent retirement fund, so less stress later in life, need to start up that Roth IRA soon. Be happy healthy for the not always so "golden years", not that this is something we can change but maybe just hope for, down the road. Less is more! No crazy investments, with this inconsistent/unknown. economy/country... have what you need, enjoy what you have!
Dreaming Big?! ( : Spectate the Olympics live.
That's what I've got off the top of my head for now... To be added and checked off!
"Do-able"? ehh yeeah
Countries I've Visited:
Mexico. Sweden. Denmark. Norway. Finland. Aland. Italy. Vatican. Belgium. Austria. Czech Republic. Slovakia. Latvia. Estonia. Germany. United Kingdom. Ireland.
States(kinda lacking, when you've been to more countries):
California. Nevada. Arizona. Washington. Oregon. Texas. North Carolina. Missouri. Arkansas. Kansas. New Mexico.
Favorite Cities/Places:
San Francisco. Prague, Czech! Uppsala, Sweden. Venice, Italy. Galway, Ireland. St. Louis, MO. Tahoe. Most bodies of water! Beach walks ahhh. Branson and Eureka Springs(mini switzerland) ( : London. Bruges, Belgium. Vienna, Austria. Dresden, Germany. Vatican(Sistine Chapel, St. Peter's Basilica were amazing).
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Everything will be alright
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Every night when we say goodbye,
I hope that you’ll be alright
I lie in bed and ponder what we’ve said,
the thoughts and feelings of you drifting through my head
I fall asleep to the sound of your voice,
and wake to the thought of your smile
I want so bad to feel your heart and soul close to me,
I want to be with you, hold on tight and never let go for all eternity
You make me feel like I know,
I’ve found something real
If I had but only one day with you or a million years alone,
I know that one day together would feel like forever,
I would risk it all to have just one chance
My sleepless nights are spent thinking about you,
the love we have, has turned out to be more than any imaginable,
more than a dream, more than a fairytale,
but all of reality
I should rise tired but feel more energized than ever before,
knowing we have each other
You help me make it through the day,
and handle everything that comes my way
What we have is something special and rare,
with nothing else that can compare
I have an everlasting smile on my face and spark in my heart,
caused by the sheer idea of us
I know my heart won’t lie,
when it comes to you and I
No measure of distance or obstacles given,
can ever keep us apart
Always know we are together holding hands on the beach,
talking all night, kissing and holding each other tight
Everytime I see you, everytime I talk to you, every time I feel you,
My heart continues melting
I’ll keep loving you,
as long I am living, breathing, being
Like a childhood crush,
pure bliss and excitement control me
Life’s greatest surprises are best filled when we are least expecting it, where we’d never vision possible, this has proven true with you
My heart has never been so filled and open since you came into my life,
you have healed it from the past pain
I don’t question us or how the future will go,
I can only put all my faith trusting it will be
What we have is too strong, too real to change,
only grow more close, more meaningful
Always in my thoughts, always in my heart,
this is just the beginning to no end
Making the Change
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When I thought about who to interview for this project, my mom instantly came to mind. Not only because she is someone who I know so well, but more because I have personally seen her grow and transform in the past few years. I’ve actually witnessed the changes in her life and seen how it has affected her presence and spirit, truly enlightening and motivational. It is almost, like going through the stages in a learning process, watching her life journey to a new destination of happiness. Now after four years of being divorced she is stronger than ever before, physically, mentally and psychologically. She has finally learned to put herself first and follow her needs and wants, not just what others expect of her as she was living before. Her outlook and attitude towards life have been brightened and revamped, she has a new found passion emerging in every aspect. She has grown from the experiences and through that it has given her the idea of what she truly wants to make her happy and brought about what is really important. I will take a more personal and internal look into the focus of this interview, emphasizing how she grew through mind set, attitude and outlook of life. These results then in turn affect the details of her externally in all aspects of living through relationships, activities, job, family, friends, experiences and most importantly who she becomes along the construction of these foundations. A complete mind, body and spiritual transformation was made once she felt free and allowed herself to be altered in the direction of her desire.
She is a happier, healthier individual who is starting to enjoy the life she is given and living with no regrets. She is like a whole new person, trying new things, making more personal time, doing things she enjoys, spending time with friends and family, all of these new experiences have helped in her ‘healing’ process to become a happier person, excited for life. All of these factors contribute to the substance of a person, the qualities in life that we find important and meaningful to one another. With her making a commitment to fulfill these aspects in her life, she is taking care of her personal needs that will make her a happier person and this will also make her healthier and less stressed by feeling satisfied with her life in different approaches. Before she really felt as though she was trapped inside a situation, a prisoner of her own life. She became so caught up in the daily routine and so naturalized to this lifestyle, that she figured it was easier to continue on with it than try to change it, even though this is not what she wanted. She found it easier to do as she had been doing for all the previous years than to resist it. Telling herself to stick it through. She kept herself busy with the everyday life functions of work, raising kids, their activities and other distractions to take her away from the reality of her unhappiness or personal lifestyle choices. She was strictly living the motions of life as she understood them or as she was expected, but not actually living her chosen life. She put on a facade to ease her unhappiness and make others believe she was okay with this life. She explains it as, her spirit had been so suppressed that it went into protection mode. To protect herself from the affects of creating her own lifestyle and happiness, so it was easier to give in and follow the same path she had been on. When you go on for so long in this way of life, it becomes normal to you and you forget what it should be like to be happy. Stuck in our own lives, not knowing what else is out there.
Making a change can be hard and scary, not knowing what the results will be. But luckily she finally took the risk to get out of this trapped situation she was in and fight for something better. When my mother separated from my dad and slowly started to live ‘her life’, instantly she appeared as though a ton of bricks had been lifted off her shoulders, although she had a long way to go, this first stage of making the change was the beginning to a better life for her. In each stage of the healing process, she became a happier, healthier person learning more about herself along the way. This was a new feeling for her since she had never taken the time or commitment to make herself happy, only taking care of others. After 30 years in an unhealthy marriage, she had finally been freed and this ‘new life’ felt as if she was reborn with the strength and power to take on anything. She knew she was unhappy before, but until she experienced this ‘rebirth’ she saw it in its full extent, looking at what she was doing with herself, the pain, misery and torture she was putting herself through by being in constant control of someone else. She realized how unmotivated and depressed she truly was at that time for all those years, holding on to something that made her so unhappy. She was physically exhausted in a shut down mode, forgetting what it was like to be happy. She didn’t think about her personal needs being fulfilled or met until she was out of this relationship. She was rejuvenated with new feelings of happiness when she crawled out of this deep hole. Everything in her life began to change as she was getting closer to being healed psychologically and mentally. She started to ‘open’ and come alive, experiencing the new feelings escaping, becoming less stressed and living more freely. New relationships emerged, new feelings evoked and new experiences aroused. In the different relationships, she was reinforced with confidence after feeling lost and confined for so many years. It is the ones we surround ourselves with that make us happy, our network of comfort that make life worth living. This made old friendships better and created new ones. With each of these people she was able to learn more about her own self and form the base of what she ultimately wanted, what felt right. All of these new feelings allowed her to appreciate herself again and gave her a boost of self worth, to finally realize she deserves better and has so many amazing qualities to offer that no one again can ever make her believe otherwise. She is a bright, vibrant, caring, enthusiastic woman who anyone should be so lucky to have in their life. She gives so much to everyone else, making them happy but under estimates her own potential and strength.
She feared the unknown which made her hesitant, resistant and scared to take a risk. Not believing in herself or thinking she was strong enough to fight ‘the bullet’. Her escapism made everything become clear, there was no constant shut down and she was actually living. Once she was happy again, she noticed she was giving more to everything, it all became enriched and more clear to her. She was liberated to be up to the task of life again with more energy and motivation. She felt invigorated with the freedom and the courage to be true to herself.
She explains that when you are in a negative lifestyle or unhappy with your situation it will in turn cause negative thoughts and attitudes, making it harder to get out of the problem because the imagined results of change are also negative, so there is little hope for the positive or motivation to create the change. If we have a positive and open outlook with no expectations, it will be easier to achieve the desired result. When we strive for something or compare our lives to others, what we imagine is better, we will never be truly happy because our own will never measure up to the standards we fantasize, we will always want more. How we act is depicted by our outlook, attitude and lifestyle, we are what we think and how we think is what we will be. The outcome of our events are made by the preconceived notions of our judgements. Basically, reiterated by the idea that life really is what you make of it.
The most important thing I have learned from watching my mom’s transition is that we have to be selfish sometimes and follow our own desires and needs, because if we always do as others expect of us we will personally never be truly happy. In the time we find ourselves unhappy in our situations, we need to break free and make the change because life is too short to carry on in an unsatisfying lifestyle. As the saying goes, “only we can create our own happiness.” Which is so very true, we are the only ones who hold the power to change our lives, to fulfill our needs and wants. Happiness can’t be measured on a universal level, it is something we all individually strive for in our own ways. Happiness isn’t a state or level to achieve but comes at best when we least expect it, comes by surprise and the little things bring upon the most joy. There are different factors of happiness for everyone and until we achieve those factors in our life we will never be happy. It is easy to follow the motions of life and do as we are ‘expected’ but to truly live ‘our’ lives and our ‘happiness’ it takes effort to stay on course. Just as my mom, she felt so pressured into living ‘this’ life, the life that was expected of her, that she lost sight of what she wanted. The best investment we can make is to our own lives, so don’t be scared to try something new or go against the image or stereotype of what we should do or how we should live.
Feels So Right
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Feels So Right
As things come and go with many uncertainties of tomorrow, the future,
there is one thing I know is for sure, one true thing I know will last forever.
You’re the one I need, the one I believe,
I can promise I will never leave.
With time passing by so fast,
I look back and wonder where the weeks go,
but the days seem to drag on so slow without you here,
in the moment life is incomplete.
I never loved someone so much,
I never knew I could love this much.
Lost the thought of finding someone until you came along,
everywhere I go, everything I do is with you, about us.
All my life to hold my hand through it all, to fill my promises,
a gift of life, of love to give purpose, hope and meaning.
Everyday I feel it all over and over again,
will never have to pretend.
We’ve found our way into something that was lost,
something that was gone or given up on,
with our borders up, to protect ourselves,
now it is only us that can protect each other.
Half a world away in distance,
in each other’s hearts it will be okay.
Honey, it is late I just need to hold you, be with you,
when will we be home to see it through?
Lonely nights are what kill me,
feeling lost in your arms to set me free,
softly whispering how I love you,
is where I want to be.
I want to be the one you come to when your days are gray,
to brighten the ray.
The one you come to when life is all good,
because I always believed you could.
Always there for you in thick and thin, good and bad,
to provide an outlet when life gets sad.
When things are tough and the day is over,
we know we will at least have each other.
Time won’t change how I feel,
these feelings are too real.
Everyday that passes, every year that is gone,
it can only grow more intoxicating, more powerful.
Only you can make me love this strong,
give me a reason, the motivation for this feeling.
You are always in my heart,
always on my mind.
To hear you in the morning is a fresh start to my day,
would never want it any other way.
Waking to your body, watching you sleep,
so peaceful, so natural.
It hurts so bad to be away, it’s not fair,
but the pain goes far away,
when I believe in what we have,
knowing that everyday is closer to you.
Falling into our time with your arms wrapped around me,
I couldn’t want anything more, I am alive!
All my other dreams don’t seem so important,
compared to the life that you fulfill in me.
Learning to unite our lives, become one
through the struggles,
making the compromises,
baby it will be okay.
I want to know what makes you happy,
what makes you hurt,
and do my best to make it all you imagine,
all you believe this can be.
Watch you while you sleep,
feeling your heart beating against my head,
with every breath you take,
I love you as you are.
Now I know I need you,
more than a feeling inside,
I am no longer alone, apart of you will live in me,
for all eternity.
This is where we belong,
raising a family,
growing old together,
ageing in our time, with only you.
I imagine it now and completely trust the thoughts,
just feels so right, feels so comfortable,
never fighting the urge of what seems real, what feels perfect
it’s simple, so simple.
I love our conversations when we talk about everything,
when we talk about nothing,
laughing at each other,
just being me, just being you.
It wasn’t a dream when I woke up and had you there,
from being so independent,
I am now relying on your love,
dependent on everything you do to me.
I can get use to this,
can’t imagine life without you now,
of never thinking of forever,
to all I know and want.
We are meant to be together,
we belong to each other,
when we say forever,
it is true.
FaTe
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Are we really destined for fate, is there that one person we are meant to be with? How do we truly know when it is right? Is it the feeling of being on top of the world and living every moment for them? Or is it just the longing of being wanted and loved? Why is it that we can go so long loving the wrong person or a lifetime looking for that special someone we want to share our life with and never find? Then there are those who have found someone so great and perfect, but they don’t realize it or know what they had until they lose it and let it go. Always wondering what else is out there, that maybe it might be better. Some people search forever for that feeling of true love and passion. Do we leave it up to chance or is it a choice? Love can be found when you are least looking and where you’d least expect it.
In the Beginning
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In the beginning I imagine things were easier. People lived simpler lifestyles and enjoyed the little things. It wasn’t about the house you had, the car you drove or the clothes you wore but about who you were. Not about comparing materialism and success, but enjoying the company of one another and the time shared with them. People cared about each other and made an effort to get involved in their lives, not only out for their own good. Helping one another out when times got tough was an instinct not a favor. Things weren’t done for the fame, fortune or acknowledgment but from the goodness within. Values and morals stood strong and abundant. People were happy about who they truly were, not creating a facade to believe they were somebody else. People were praised and idolized for being real life heroes and role models, doing great things to contribute the world, not for having money or status. People actually had time to spend with their families, not just consumed by work. People didn’t fly by with everywhere to go and nowhere to hide, but were able to slow down and take it all in. Chaos and commitments weren’t controlling lives. Technology didn’t take over and people actually communicated on a personal level. Stories and traditions were passed down through the generations, not DVDs. People entertained one another, not i-pods and wii’s. Family dinners were home cooked, not fast food. Families stayed together, not in different states. Reputations were something to be proud of, not something to give up on. Kids actually played outside, not zoned out in front of a TV or video game. Parents felt safe letting their children out in public not worried that they may go missing, get hurt, raped or killed. Houses were left unlocked, trusting their neighbors, never thinking about criminals, intruders or thieves. Sunday was a day of rest and religion, not another day to get things done. School was a place to learn, not buy drugs. People read books, not computer screens. People were living off of cash, not credit. Being in debt wasn’t the norm. Sex was for married couples, not kids. Assuming innocent until proven guilty, not guilty until proven innocent. Punishment was brutal but lessons were learned. You did the crime, you paid the price. People had to work hard for what they had. Welfare and government assistance wasn’t available. Families bought houses, not struggling to pay rent. The ratio of births to deaths each year was relatively equal, not uncomparable. News was of actual importance, not celebrity gossip. Outer image didn’t distract from inner beauty.
Sure a lot of things have changed for the better from previous eras. Segregation, healthcare, technology, education and globalization. As the days go bye, the weeks pass on and the years turn into generations, everything transforms. When the times change, so do the people and so does society. Is it for the better or is it only getting worse?
Sunday, October 11, 2009
STAR: Study Abroad Article
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Jattebra That’s Swedish for gigantically good and pretty well sums up my abroad experience thus far. When I left home in August I was a little nervous, having never been out of the country and leaving my comfort zone but of course excited for the new experiences. The moment I landed in Sweden and met the other international students at the airport, I knew I was in for a good year and with the more I see and do it is true.
I feel like I have stepped back in time. I live in downtown Uppsala, which is 40 minutes north of Sweden’s capital, Stockholm, it is a beautiful city full of history and traditions. Viking stones from the 4th century, the largest cathedral in northern Europe and the Royal Castle(not too many of those in CA). It is amazing Uppsala Universitet was established in 1477(hard to believe) and is alumni of 15 Nobel Prize laureates, numerous royalty, public figures, Carl Linneaus and Anders Celsius. It is well known for being a university town and it really does cater to the students, with 13 student “Nations” spread throughout town in historical buildings dating back to the 16th Century. Only students are allowed in the nations and each includes a club, pub, library, café and restaurant. Everything a student could need and perfect place to keep warm during the cold, dark winter. There are always activities and entertainment to keep busy.
So far my favorites have been the gasques, like a university prom with a formal three course dinner, traditional Swedish drinking songs, singing, bands, dancing and lots of snaps(shots). Very fun And another important aspect of the swedish culture is Fika “A coffee break”, but not what we consider a coffee break, it is more just a time to get together with friends at a café, relax and enjoy some tasty treats and good company anytime of the day. Also can’t forget meatballs, hard ciders, IKEA, muesli, towel warmers, saunas, folk dance, bikes, Abba, choklarbols, falukorv and lingon berries, just to name a few of the things essential to the Swedish culture I have found.
On top of experiencing the local Swedish lifestyle and taking in all the nearby sights, including the Royal Palace in Stockholm, the famous Falun Copper Mine, Aland Island and many other museums and activities, I have also been able to travel to other countries. A few cruises to the surrounding countries of Helsinki, Finland and Tallinn, Estonia and many more travels planned for the upcoming months. The public transportation is great here and if you book it right the travel is too cheap to pass up. My class is going on a field trip to Berlin at the end of the month. How cool is that
The schooling system is also very different in Europe, which has been a bit of a transition. I do like the change and with my courses being all international students, it has been very interesting and broadening to hear such diverse and global perspectives on different issues or discussions.
Sure it took a few weeks to settle in, after confusing sour milk(yes they love it) for regular, which I have heard is a common mistake among the international students, trying to translate the laundry machines and signs, figuring out the currency, grocery shopping in a different language and the metric system. After all that I feel comfortable to call this home for the next nine months and excited for all it will bring.
It isn’t just what I’m learning in the classroom but also the different people from all over the world, adjusting to the new way of living, the culture and the many experiences that have already made an impact. This is the perfect time of life to see and do new things before the “real world” job and all the other responsibilities that tie us down. Coming abroad is one of the best decisions I have made, not only am I having the time of my life, but it has also given me confidence to handle any situation and opened my mind to different views.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Life in Sweden
Ahh I finally have time to write about my first impressions of Sweden. It seems like this week has gone by so fast, it’s been just over a week since I’ve arrived but feels much longer, which is good, I already feel comfortable and that this will be a good fit for the next nine months. I’m pretty well settled in and have the town somewhat figured out. It has been great meeting students from all over the world. Feels like it is a mecca for international students. Orientation week has been fun going to all the different Nations(student clubs/pubs) which is mainly what the student life consists of. There are 13 different nations named after “provinces” in sweden so the resident students are placed based on where they are from while us international students get to decide based on which one suits us best from the daily activities they have, pub atmosphere, club nights, library, food, gasques, etc. although we can still go to any of the events at other nations. It is really neat that all the nations are in old historical buildings throughout the city. Uppsala is so beautiful, first thing I noticed flying into sweden was that it is very green and lots of open space, but easy to say compared to most of the states haha, not covered with cement or big cities, buildings everywhere. I live right downtown, very convenient and can see the top of the cathedral from my room. Crazy to say that I live by a castle and a cathedral. Uppsala has a lot of history and it seems they really try to keep it traditional and original. There are viking stones around the cathedral park that date back to the 11th century and the famous “silver bible” in the Carolina Rediva library from the 8th century. It is amazing to see all the history. The campus is spread throughout town as well, most departments also being held in historical buildings, like the main university building is where the nobelaurettes come every year and also royalty throughout the year. It is so fun to just walk around and see all of these things and learn about them. It is a college town, the city was built around the university(started in 1477) and the cathedral. Everyone bikes from young to old and although it is a bigger city, 4th largest in sweden, it is very easy to get around. The student life is great so far. Fika is very big here and it is basically “coffee time” or just take a break and hangout with friends have pastries or coffee. Nations clubs and pubs take up most of the nights, cider is popular and very good. The swedish seem to be very easy going, but also very reserved. Life is in slow pace here and relaxed. Everyone has been very nice, I feel completely safe walking around at night and luckily for my sake everyone speaks english. I want to learn some swedish while I am here so I’m not the typical traveler who doesn’t know the language. Uppsala has a great downtown with shops, restaurants, outside dining, parks and a river that runs through separating the two sides, then up the street are the nations and the castle and cathedral. There are also many other museums like the Carl Linneus museum, he is one of the most famous swedes to come out of uppsala. His botanical garden is one of the sights to see. I made a trip to Stockholm, which is just a 40 minute train ride south. It was really fun and so much to see there. It is the capital of sweden and also the “capital of scandinavia.” We saw the Royal Palace, Nobel Museum, famous hotels and other museums. A lot to take in for just one day. It is a few little islands, all connect by bridges. We took a ferry boat around for the day and got off at each stop. It was different to be in the Baltic Sea. Stockholm is a very entertaining city with old history but also new advancements. Everything has been great this far, meeting so many new interesting people, fun city, new places, learning new cultures and experiences, good times! I am really glad to be here just not looking forward to the winter too much. Some friends and I are making trip plans for around europe as well so looking forward to that and o yes classes will fit in somewhere.
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Diminishing or just transforming with the times?
"To love your country, doesn't mean you can't ignore its faults."
When I look back at what I imagine of being the American Dream in previous times, I think it is about creating happiness, for yourself and your family by providing a satisfied lifestyle through hard work and overcoming all the struggles along the way. Having the freedom of choice to pursue goals and dreams, while given the opportunity to have, life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. It involved finding success by climbing up the ladder and never giving up. Not necessarily the rags to riches story or giving every generation a better life than the previous, a better life than your parents, but rather just achieving a fulfilling life in every way possible. Even more so, it means being able to eventually settle down with a career of interest that provides enough income to be financially stable, having health and well-being, a loving family, a house to call home and also able to also enjoy the things you love most. Might sound pretty cliché, but I think that is what most of us hope for and work towards. Now it seems to me like that dream has changed or transformed throughout the years. It’s not that people don’t want these things and this lifestyle of course, but rather it is becoming increasingly harder to achieve with the way the world is turning and society is transgressing.
Going from one extreme to another, many now strive for wealth, fame and fortune. By living the high life, driving the coolest car, talking on the newest cell phone, eating at the finest restaurants; living the perfect life of luxury and privilege. But is it these things that truly make one happy? Or is it a facade they use to cover up their insecurities and false realities? Far from the contradictory lives most of us live, trying to handle life’s daily obstacles. The classic American Dream of freedom and happiness has been corrupted by society and drastically transformed into greed and money. It’s not about what you’ve done with your life, the accomplishments you’ve earned, the contributions towards improving society or the life of others, but what objects you have accumulated, the house you live in, the car you drive, the tags on your clothes. Is it the more you can show for through materialism and consumerism, the better, more successful person you are? Everything about the American Dream has weakened including the values and morals that come along with it. We are defined and judged by our possessions, positions and financial worth more so than our talents, abilities or achievements.
Many people today view their role models or heroes as celebrities or politicians not successful, contributing people of influence. People in power are more corrupt than ever before with politicians taking advantage of their status to gain personal worth and often financial benefits as well, to priests “men of the cloth,” “God’s messengers,” who are caught molesting the children of the church. What has our world come to when we can’t even put faith and trust into our own ministers? We already knew politicians were dishonorable but preachers? Come on. Just a few things on the list to vent about that are questionable in our society.
Don’t want to completely start off with a dark, depressive attitude so in a brighter and more uplifting outlook there are numerous, countless things that make our country great and justify why we should be so very lucky to live here. And in reality, not just me trying to prove a point, there really are more decent people and good qualities that outweigh the bad in our society. I truly do see it everyday from complete strangers, helping humankind for the common good, not to be acknowledged or rewarded. But like with everything else and as the motto goes, it is the few bad ones that give everyone else a bad name or reputation and it sure is easier to point out the bad than the good. It is true that one mistake or fault is remembered forever even when it included an eternity of greatness. Not trying to be cynical of the country I love and am proud to be a citizen of by criticizing my fellow citizens but opening our eyes.
Americans are not ignorant or foolish. We are smart, sensible individuals. We represent the freedom and liberty our nation was built upon. We are what other countries idolize and strive to become. We live the lives other people wish they could experience. We have some of the best and most advanced educational systems, medical care, technology, armed forces and government services. Along with the numerous resources and supplies(although quickly vanishing) to fill the demands of our people. We don’t and hopefully never will have to worry about the necessities to survive, far from the harsh realities of children in Darfur or Uganda for example. Most of us have accumulated more in a year than families in other countries do in a lifetime. We are very fortunate to live here. America is the most powerful country, the leader of the world. Which doesn’t just come with the name, but by the people who exemplify it; we are what distinguish us from other countries. Take pride in being an American and use your freedom to its best. If you live here; love it and become apart of it. As the times change, the people, ideals and societal standards change, but as long as we remember freedom doesn’t come easy; it comes with attitude and respect.
Beginning with the transgression of people, starts at childhood. It is where our base and foundation are first built upon. It used to be that childhood was full of imagination and play, where minds were shaped and created. Now children are bombarded with materialism, products and objects are consistently and constantly in the media to shape young minds to become consumers: the ultimate goal of society. Children are no longer able to experience true childhood; playing outside until the sun goes down, being easily entertained by a simple cardboard box or playing with a jump rope. Parents plop their kids in front of the TV and continue on with their busy lives.
With all of the societal pressures from our media and culture to become an adult and a consumer, it instills the mentality and pressure for kids to grow up faster. Whatever happened to “I don’t want to grow up, I just want to be a kid?” Now our culture is full of elementary children sporting the newest cell phones and i-pods, spending more time zoned out on the computer, TV or Wii. God forbid they go outside and experience the “real” world not the virtual one they are living in.
So many children grow up with no discipline or beliefs, which give them the freedom and mind-set that they can do whatever they please without consequences for their actions. They are not learning morals but the latest celebrity gossip, which is opposing to the image we should strive to ingrain in our youth and the future. It is very contradictory to what it takes to become successful.
The pregnancy rate of adolescents has sky rocketed. It is basically kids having kids themselves. This relates back to the parenting, if kids have no role models or guidance they are lost and looking for attention; leading them to act up in all the wrong ways. The parents are setting their own children up for failure. Children go to school to learn “book smarts.” Sure they learn through their social environment how to handle different situations and problems, how to be socially acceptable and how to communicate with their peers, but it is ultimately the parents responsibility to instill real world lessons to their children and guide them so they can become valued and sensible; the knowledge and skills to survive and live decently. It is so important for parents to create that relationship with their children to lead by example and give them support.
Now to the discussion of technology, it does have a lot to do with who people are becoming and where our society is headed or has already arrived. Don’t get me wrong, technology has been the source of many great, life improving advancements such as healthcare, new forms of accessible communication, globalization, safety innovations, education; all of which assist in the progression of society. But realistically, technology has created lazier citizens. We are relying on technology to do everything for us and it is overpowering the human race, it is becoming who we are as a society. Between on-line degrees, working out of the home, chat rooms and social networks, we are loosing ourselves and personal human to human communication. Back in the day(or even just twenty years ago) I bet our grandparents would have never imagined or thought possible that everything from on-line shopping at the comfort, convenience of your couch, to GPS with talking directions, internet at palm of your hands, to an electronic toothbrush would exist. Along with programs like World of Warcrafts and Sims, “gamers” are simulating a new life and image for themselves, full with real money and interaction between other on-liners. A whole world created and lived on the computer screen. It is causing us to loose personal connection, which creates a lack of social skills to function in society. People can’t handle themselves in a real social situation, because they are so custom and comfortable to hiding behind the computer screen and not having to deal with life on the outside. What is to blame for all this change? Is it due to technology and other advancements or have people changed with the times? Is all of this technology honestly helping or hurting our world, our people as we progress in time? When does it become too much? At what point will we as living, breathing beings surrender and realize it has gone too far? With all of this technology, it allows us to do more, to be more, to see more but how much is enough? Through the accessibility of technology; doctors are curing cancer, healthcare has been taken to a new level, education is at the cutting edge, everyday beneficial changes are being made to strengthen and help our world, but is it overly transforming?
Many new advancements make us question if they really are good for society? Like finding new cures or vaccinations for instance, pretty radical philosophy but some argue that even though it is great to fight off these horrible diseases, cancers, etc. it is also going against nature. As hard and twisted as it is to understand, it is “God’s way” to control population growth. Or personally I think it would be a lot more logical and ethical to just keep control of all these “octimoms” running loose and only be allowed to have as many children as you can financially aford. It would help many aspects of society like control our welfare problem, over population, poverty and create smaller schools. The money saved would give us more resources to care for those citizens truly in need. The ratio of births to deaths each year is no longer balanced or relatively equal as it was in earlier eras, it is off the scale incomparable. Our resources are being extremely over utilized and other problems are created that accompany this.
This brings me to the topic of families transforming. We are so busy with everything from home life, the workplace, the family and all else in between, that we don’t even have the time to savor any of it. And forget about time to relax and possibly do something of enjoyment not only things we feel obligated to do. Family time, family dinners and family nights are becoming pastimes when these are the kinds of events that should take priority. The time spent with family and friends should be cherished and special, not put on hold for all of life’s other commitments and responsibilities. Life really does get in the way of living, it sometimes seems. Americans are very good at “spreading themselves too thin.” We are so caught up in all we do and our daily lifestyles or routines that we loose sight of who we are and what we truly want. It is so easy to get stuck in a rut and follow the same tedious schedule day after day. We are slowly loosing ourselves in our lifestyles, becoming lost, confused, twisted and used while using it as an excuse to avoid the actuality of what we really want and desire. It shapes us, making it superior to all else, even family and health. Never wanting to cause change or leave our comfort zone of what we know and trust. When we really are living anything but comfortable, dealing with the daily stresses and living just the motions of life not life itself. We are afraid to inflict change or try something new, scared the outcome might fail. But wouldn’t it be harder living with the regret of never knowing what could have been than to be a little risky?
Work is causing people to forgo their lives. Not just a job for the sake of making a living, but living to only work. Don’t get me wrong; we can all only hope we find a job we love and are passionate about and sure we work because we obviously have to, but there comes a point when we have to also realize there is more to life than just bringing home the bacon. Once again, moderation really is the key to success. Although it proves a challenge, the balance of work, family and “you time” are very important and make for a happier, healthier individual.
We are becoming too busy to spend time with the ones we love. We need to make the time in our busy lives to put aside for family and friends. Not only are we distant in family interaction, but throughout the years becoming much more geographically distant as well, which makes it harder and idealistic to build a family bond. What happened to the days when there was legacy? Children would attend the same high school as their great grandparents and the family name and the reputation built was actually something to be proud of. We aren’t just separated by different neighborhoods but by state borders, which makes it that much harder to build a meaningful relationship with your family.
Speaking of relationships, it seems as though they have also changed in altering ways. Nothing lasts; is it because it is easier to “get around,” too many distractions surrounding us or that we can’t have continuity, do we get bored with our relationships? No one can trust one another and couples are resorting to alternatives or others to fill that need. I see relationships based purely on the “idea” or image of being with someone more than the genuine love for each other. Couples are not happy or truly in love, but they long to feel needed or dependent on someone else so they stay together. Trust and commitment seem to be dying or at least harder to come by with the highest divorce rate ever and people relying on the mentality that “you can always just get a divorce if it doesn’t workout.” The meaning of marriage is loyalty, commitment and love. What happened to sticking to your vows, "To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part?" Not saying that previous eras never cheated on their lovers or experimented with different partners. Just seems like it is unfortunately all too common now and easily forgiven. When if you truly love someone, they should forever be the one and only in your life. Couples are more into the physical, sexual desires of a relationship than actually having a true bond of love that is everlasting. Don’t get me wrong, the attraction and passion has to be there, but having that connection with someone to last forever is most important. The feeling of comfort when you know they are the one you want to spend your life with and can’t survive without. If this is present in a relationship, all of your needs will be filled and there is never thoughts or temptations to look elsewhere. Physical pleasure is just one aspect to a true, satisfied relationship. It is reassuring to know that you can actually relate to your lover and share a beautiful life together.
Back to technology, on-line dating is the new thing, overtaking the old, traditional methods of actually meeting people in the natural. People are creating relationships through different websites. It is understandable to use these sites with the direction our culture is turning and busy lifestyles, but when people are relying on communicating strictly through the computer it gets to be a little absurd. Especially knowing that it can be deceiving, a false front they are portraying. How do you really know one is being honest? And isn’t that what a relationship should be based upon? Is a virtual conversation and exchanging of pictures a real relationship filled with romance and love? Needless to say, many long lasting marriages have been formed from on-line dating, but it is still strange and definitely need to be safe. It is a far cry from what began as high school sweethearts to the 67 years of marriage my grandparents lived and loved together.
How people live their lives really does contribute to the way society is shaped and the direction our country takes. The American dream isn’t necessarily about working your way up, overcoming the struggles and obstacles to become successful, but doing whatever it takes to reign on top. Money, power and greed have corrupted our world and people will lie, cheat, steal and kill to get it. Ethics, morals and values are no barrier.
I like to believe that I am doing the right thing by going to school and earning a degree to get a decent paying career, providing for my family, etc. Basically that all my hard work will eventually pay off to create a better lifestyle for myself but I often wonder is it a waste of time and money, or will it pay off in the end? Should I join the rest of the people who get by fine doing the bare minimum? What is the incentive of working hard when the middle, working class essentially get penalized by having to make up for the slackers of society? Those that have nothing or don’t work for anything are rewarded by the ones doing the right thing of working hard and paying their way. Our government assists those that can’t provide for themselves so it creates the idea that they can just rely on it and not have to worry. While the citizens that actually do work for what they have, not only are struggling to get by but also paying the way of others. Not saying we shouldn’t help out our fellow citizens that are less fortunate or in severe circumstances, to help them get back on their feet, but I am talking about the ones that take full advantage of the system when they are able to work. There is no integrity or pride to work hard anymore. Whatever happened to the American dream of earning everything you have? I tell myself I will be rewarded later in life and it will all be worth it, but it is sometimes frustrating to believe when I see so many stories of people getting defeated and taken advantage of. The good people unfortunately finish last all too often in this mixed up world. Makes me question myself and see why so many people eventually just give up. But on the contrary it also gives us more incentive to push ourselves and become more than the rest, to live a better life. My ethics and morals of work are constantly pushed and twisted by temptations, but I know I am fulfilling my own goals by working hard to create the life I’ve imagined, even if I feel it sometimes goes hopeless in its entirety.
The richer you are, the more taxes you pay. So, if you work hard your whole life to become successful and get a high paid position it should be your obligation to society to give more of your money away? Shouldn’t it be that if you work hard, you should be rewarded, not punished? We live in America, the land of the free. How free is it really? We have a very irrational, corrupt system that sometimes penalizes those that endure through the ups and downs. It seems like it is a system of balance, with the wealthier citizens making up for or “balancing” out the less wealthy. All a part of the high cost of living in America we are cursed by everyday. Whether it is fair or not, it seems inevitable at least in this generation.
My parents only had my brother and me because that is what they knew they could sufficiently provide for with the opportunities to go to college and do the things we wanted. My mom and dad have worked hard their entire lives to put food down on the table and supply a decent lifestyle for my family, but it kills me to see the financial problems they have recently encountered with this economic crisis. They truly get screwed and hit with everything, causing them constant stress. If they were less successful would they get the assistance they need falling into government care and getting it subsidized?
The working, middle class citizens have to literally be dead to go to the doctor, because of such high premiums, extreme deductibles, co-pays and ridiculous insurance rates that they are afraid to even use their own healthcare plans because of the expenses it will cost them. While the ones on welfare or government subsidized care have no problem taking advantage knowing they don’t have to pay for it. The unemployed and illegal immigrants get too many privileges.
How about having to personally pay for the damages when an illegal immigrant without insurance hits your car? What is wrong with this situation? So much for taking care of our own contributing citizen’s right? Once again, having to make up for the rest of society and being punished for doing right. What kind of message is this sending to the future generations of America? If you pay taxes, contribute to society and what do you get in return?
Or all the ethnic and cultural college scholarships, where you have to be a certain ethnicity to apply? Not once in all the research I’ve done have I ever come across a Caucasian scholarship for a pure breed white girl. Of course not, that would be considered racism. How about reverse racism? I think in this day and age, with whites quickly becoming the minority; this is the bigger issue. I am all about equality and I know we(whites) mistreated and abused Native Americans, African Americans, Asians and I’m sure the list can go on, but the past is over and nothing will ever change that or take it back. How long will it go that we have to make up for our ancestors mistaken legacy? Isn’t that contradictory of the mistreatment they underwent? At what point, if ever, can we all just be equal and forgiven of all mistakes, judgments and stereotypes? More effort needs to be made to create parity among all. I know we are not all given the same, equal opportunities and it will probably never be that way, but it would be nice to see more widespread unity.
Especially with the declining state of the economy we are experiencing; success or just surviving is proving to be a struggle, making the American Dream even harder or unachievable. It is very discouraging to know people are working jobs they hate because it’s all they can get for the time and should be lucky to even have. Forget about traveling, going out or luxuries, it is about survival.
The price of living is not relative to the wages and salaries that most people make. Hence why we are in more debt than ever before and credit is the staple source of reliance. In comparison, my mom paid off her first car by herself working minimum wage as a lifeguard, for only one summer. Without the help of my parents or taking out loans there would be no way I could make enough money in one summer to buy a new car. It is not even possible these days, hard enough to just get the down payment and keep up with the monthly fees over a four year period. Along with that, my grandparents outright owned their house as a young couple on their own without obscene mortgages, home loans or severe debt. Obviously this goes with everything else, all the other costs of everyday living like gas, bread, etc. Of course prices will increase with time, but as time also increases it seems to be more and more out of reach. It has gotten to a point where it is unobtainable to keep up or catch up with the high costs of living, always a step behind if you want to have anything and forget about investing or saving with the never ending debt to pay off. This all also contributes to people working till the day they die, because they have to pull out of their retirement plans and 401K’s early. So the dream of working hard to eventually have a good retirement has also proven to be another challenge. There are many factors and obstacles like the state of the economy preventing this “American Dream” of becoming reality, making it unobtainable that it really is just that: a dream or idea. It is so distorted by the truth that our perception of it is surreal.
Well, enough with the demolishing of our society and pointing out a few of the many problems. This wasn’t intended to be completely negative. Rant and rave? Maybe, but I also want to say and clarify that there are great people, many of them in fact. Everyday I am proud and fortunate to live here no matter how pessimistic I come across. Life is beautiful and society as we know it is not completely going down the drain, things are definitely changing, but there is still hope. Changing for the better? Hard to say, I’ll let you be the judge of that.
I understand every nation has problems of their own on varying levels, some worse than others and very incomparable with how civilized or advanced a society is. I am very lucky to have my health, my family, my freedom and my opportunities; the things we easily take for granted.
Since the time of human creation, we have evolved and will continue to evolve as the times change, but I can only hope we will still hold the same ideas and beliefs our ancestors shared. Just because the times change and everything changes along with it, doesn’t mean that we have to also change who and what we are. This country was not built with a computer, but by the hard work and determination of the natural, inherent mind and body. With that said, live your own “American dream”; don’t give into society and media’s standards or stereotypes of living. Very few of us have the “perfect life” and true happiness can only be measured by the individual.
Maybe it’s not that our society, even world in general is diminishing its standards, but just transforming with the times and keeping up with the demands of change. New era, new outlook? Although, things are transforming, some things remain the same; we are human and only we can create this change.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Grandpa
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Monday, March 30, 2009
Nor Cal Hiking
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With Spring officially upon us, and the sun shining bright, it’s time to dig out your hiking boots and hit the trails. Luckily for us, living here in beautiful Sonoma County, this area and surrounding areas are filled with great trails to suit every hiker from the casual stroller to the most extreme outdoors men. With the wonderful spring weather that brings about flowers in full bloom and luscious green hillsides from the winter rains, everyone should find the time to get out and enjoy the scenery. Take advantage of Nor Cal and experience all the scenic locations available, which there is definitely not a shortage of.
From an after class social hike with friends at local hot spots like Sugar Loaf Ridge, Armstrong Redwoods, Petaluma Adobe, or even just Crane Creek Regional Park around the corner from campus to the more intense and longer weekend outings at places a little further like Golden Gate State Park or China Camp. The options are endless, the views are awesome and the benefits are valuable. Good for the mind, body and soul.
If you’re wanting to see more than the mountains, make for a day trip and take a scenic drive to the coast to places like Sonoma Coast State Park nudged between Bodega Bay and Jenner or Point Reyes National Seashore that expands to over 150 miles of rocky, coastal trails. Beyond the vast tidelines of Point Reyes, lie the surrounding forests, which are home to bobcats, coyote, raccoons, deer and elk. You might even get lucky and catch glimpses of elephant seals, whales, sea lions and snowy plovers throughout the different seasons on the coast side. It is a perfect opportunity to experience the differing habitats of the rugged beaches to the mountainous terrain.
To help kick-start your fun, hiking adventure, here are two of my favorite places in the area...
In close range is Annadel State Park, a local favorite of mine, nestled in the mountains of Santa Rosa. Highlighted by Lake Iisanjo and Ledson Marsh, tucked in the heart of the park, Annadel has over 35 miles of hiking ranging from the very moderately graded ‘Spring Creek Trail’ to the more strenuous elevation of ‘Steve’s "S" Trail’. Leading through a forest of Redwoods and Douglas fir, both are likely to be enjoyable and provide stunning views of the various wild flower covered hillsides, sword ferns, blue-eyed grass and abundant wildlife. And if fishing is of interest, don’t forget to stop by Lake Iisanjo, for a mid-hike breather and try catching some black bass or bluegill.
For the more advanced hiker, there is the famous Muir Woods, at about an hours drive south off the 101, and more than worth it. Muir Woods is a National Park and quite the sight to see. Once you step foot into the park, you will quickly find for yourself why it is such a tourist destination with more than 800,000 visitors from all over the world each year to get a glimpse of nature at its best. The entrance of Muir Woods is "not so natural," with paved paths full of tourists and cameras in hand to capture the moment, but is a decent enough walk for the less adventurous hiker or just those who want to see the spectacular sight without working up a sweat. Covered by the tallest type of tree in the world, the Coast redwoods, which only exist in northern California and southern Oregon along a narrow 500 mile coastal strip, as well as numerous other plants and animals are all apart of the old-growth redwood forest, Muir Woods. Some of the redwood trees date back to over thousands of years old and can get as large as 350 feet tall and 18 feet in diameter. Tanoak trees, ferns, redwood sorrel, stellar jays, black-tailed deer, and banana slugs, may also be seen along the trails. Past all the hubbub and excitement from new visitors is where the ruggedness begins and where the true hikers are lured. Muir Woods has various trails ranging from hour long loops to exhausting all day hikes, with connecting trails to create your own destination or distance. After the initial inclines of most of the advanced trails, hikers are stunned by the breath taking views that reach as far as the ocean in the distance to mountain tops overlooking the entire park. Immersed in the redwood trees and flowing streams of this coastal forest, Muir Woods provides a place of pure serenity and
rejuvenation.
While in the vicinity of Muir Woods, are other great hikers destinations, including Mount Tamalpais, standing at a 2,570-foot elevation, high above redwood groves and oak woodlands. Over 50 miles of trail within the park that connects to a larger, 200-mile-long trail system including that of Muir Woods. If you’re more of an ocean lover than a mountain trekker, check out Muir Beach and Stinson Beach along the coast.
If you need to ease the stress of course exams, work or just want to catch up with some friends or take a break, a good hike is sure to do the trick. Even if you’re crunched on time, a short and simple trail can still provide a lasting effect to make it through the rest of the day. The fresh air and feeling of freedom possess energy to refuel and handle the busiest of schedules. So, grab your shoes, preferably a comfortable pair with good traction, your eco-friendly, reusable water bottle and hit the trails my friends. I promise your computer will still be there when you get back. No excuses!
Feeling at Peace
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Watching the dolphins jump into the waves as the sunset falls into the water reassures me of how beautiful this world can be. There is no expensive show or high-tech special effects that could manipulate the experience. This sight I was witnessing is pure, natural beauty that only the wild can possess. The whole sky fills with shades of every color, looking too fake to be true. A picturesque scene, that is so perfect and so real. As I sit there immerged in this setting with nothing distracting me, it as if I am on top of the world, free as the dolphins below. Too much too see, too much to feel that I can soak it all in.
Music to my Life
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It is so peaceful, to hear only the soft strumming of a pic against the strings. Something so simple in shape and design, yet so complex in its creations. It can play to the softness of a baby sleep or the roughness of a rock concert. It can provide a masterpiece for a symphony or just a jam fest with a garage band. It doesn discriminate and allows everyone to get joy from it. It can be a heavenly tool that is part of a tradition. Some play for their family, their culture or their religion. While others just play for fun, with friends or for themselves. Some play for the fortune, for the fame or as a career. It is everything different to everyone. A valuable tool with so much promise that can be heard far and near. The same six strings are able to produce music that is diverse and unique, just as the artists playing it. It is a gateway of expression from what inside to the outside world, for no one to hear or everyone to share. Can be as free or restricted as you choose it to be.
The energy and attitude opens endless potential to music. A six string instrument that with each and every note can sound so individual and distinct in its own way. Every time it is played, something different, something new and something beautiful is created. It is the door to infinite possibilities of expression, which it has proven over the years all over the world. Countless songs, albums and records have their success to contribute to this instrument.
This powerful instrument can remind us of special moments in our lives and take us back in time to unforgettable memories. Whether it is the memory it shares on the first dance at your wedding, the song to boost your spirit or the song to remind you of that special someone. The impression it leaves is felt throughout and forever.
Comforting Idea
Our time we had together seemed merrily perfect. Hard to imagine in such a short time two people can become so close. After the first day with you, it felt so comfortable and everything just felt so right. We can be ourselves and not have to worry. Feels so natural to talk with you, laugh with you and be with you.
I have faith in our destiny together and belief that it will work. Living for each other and the things we need, not what others want for us. As long as we have each other I know it will be okay. Someone to talk to, some to love, someone to care for, someone to hug is what we are waiting for. When the days are rough, I want it to be only us that can brighten them.
I imagine it will be easy once the day comes, the idea we have of us will turn into reality. If we follow our hearts they will lead us to the right direction. I am not scared because my heart won lie when it comes to you and I. Being able to see you, feel you and talk with you is where I want to be for all eternity. The idea of sharing an entire life with someone can be scary, but the idea of us is promising.
I feel like a kid again dreaming of a family of my own, a house to call home and the one to be with enduringly. The dream idea may just be playing out into reality. We talk about everything we want to have, the home you want to build and what we want to do. Most would think it is a long shot, a fairytale or just crazy talk but it feels so perfect and like it will become complete. It seems like a fantasy but it is indescribably real.
Now only after a short time passing, I know the idea of us will in time become actuality and it will be everlasting. Just the idea alone brings me happiness and improves my outlook. I put all my faith in hoping it will be true. Destined for the future is where we will be.
True to the Core
Just from the experiences he tells, the conversations he has and the influence of being around him, you l see that he enjoys the little things life offers. Like the fond memories he has of Thanksgiving dinners and family celebrations that brought everyone together as one, to the more common weekends of 4-wheeling with his buddies on the long, hot summer days, working on his truck, fishing and barbeques. These are the events that fill his body with excitement and his mouth with stories. These simple pleasures are what bring him the most enjoyment and happiness. This is what he lives for, what he is all about and shows the kind of guy he is. He doesn care much about the latest product on the market or the celebrity craze but rather about how your mom is doing. As long as he is around the ones he loves, he doesn need anything else. He is easy to please, simple in needs and wants. Give him some good ol country music, some friends to kick back and relax with, a few cold ones to throw down and he living the life. It not about how many friends he has, but the quality of lifelong, true friends he is blessed with. He is the kind of friend that everyone searches for, always willing to give an extra hand, useful advice and an ear to listen. The whole package, we all want a piece of.
While his personality is easy-going and exhilarating, he still gets the job done. He understands that it takes hard work to be successful. More than the work itself, he has to feel a sense of accomplishment. He doesn want anything handed to him and has earned everything he has.
Far from the southern California ways he was born in, living in Oklahoma is where his heart belongs and where he is proud to call home. Never really feeling the need to stray far from the comfort he has found, where he has everything and everyone he will ever need to live his life, his way. No world class traveling, pricey luxuries or big fame and fortune can make up for or subdue where his journey has brought him. He is happy with where he is, who he has and what he has. His travels have lead him back and forth and all around, but always for a good reason; family. Leaving his lifestyle to be closer to his sick grandma, shows just one way in which he values family above all else. It is these traits and morals that have been passed down to create the person he has become and will be continued into a family of his own.
He is very humble, which is shown by the way he regards the battle for his life he survived as a young boy, where his guardian angels were on his side. A near death experience that would cause most of us to live it forever and possibly feel sorry for ourselves. He would never use the accident as an easy way out or an excuse, which so many would take advantage of. Rather he uses it as an inspiration that he was meant to do more, get more out of life.
He has the mentality to always be honest in every situation and with everyone. This proves to be a hard trait to come by these days, with so many superficial people that care more about jeopardizing their own image than being truthful to others. He is willing to take the risk if it ultimately means helping someone out. You will never have to worry about him holding anything from you, lying or avoiding a problem, he will always tell you how it is and how he feels, whether or not it what you wanted to hear. He won cherry coat the truth either. This can be rude or offensive at first but actually shows that he is real. To sum it up; he rather be hated for who he is, than loved for who he not. He is what he is and always will be. I wouldn say he is completely stuck in his ways, but rather knows what he wants and how to get it. He won undermine new experiences or others opinions until he tries it and gives everything and everyone a fair chance. It is just another characteristic added to the list that makes him such a great friend and a genuine person.
It is easy for some to say, they would give the shirt off their back or give their life for the ones they love, but this holds true with him. He is a giver by nature and would never expect or want anything in return. He is modest and never does it for the recognition or to blow his own horn, but because he truly cares. He rather take the blame or cover the bar tab than jeopardize a friendship or relationship with those close to him.
This is Shaun Henry Welch, true to the core. A good friend, an honest person and a caring individual. Someone I am proud to call my boyfriend and lucky to have in my life.